Tuesday, July 13, 2010

On the Death of the Romance

Romances bug me. I don't just mean those paperback romance novels in the adult section of the library, I'm talking about YA books that about teen relationships, about movies, old and new, about lovers. I usually try to avoid them, for a couple reasons.

- it makes not being in a relationship a lot harder. Its hard enough with friends "pairing off" and it being pretty much a central topic among girls, but it hard in books, too. Because I love books. And because I read a LOT of books. And because a lot of books have THAT topic. And when I see the relationships in books, its just one more reminder that I'm not in a relationship, and I don't know what its like, and... you get the picture.

- romances are never "painted" realistically in books an movies. So when I'm bombarded with these messages from the culture about what my love life should be like, sometimes I start to believe it. And then I have unrealistic expectations about what should be happening in my life now, and in the future. When, in reality, Hollywood and Publishing Houses are just trying to get an emotional response from me and other teenage girls to sell more tickets and books. They don't care about 'realistic'. They don't care about how they are shaping young minds. All they care about making money.

- there are plenty of other good books out there to read. I could never read another romance book, and be perfectly satisfied. Really and truly. It may be hard to believe, but it really is possible.

there are more reasons, but those are my big three.
Agree? Disagree?


J.M. Roberts said...

This is part of the problem I have with the Twilight series (which I believe has shallow characters and isn't very well written). There is nothing to the relationship between Bella and Edward except obsession, and it scares me that that idea attracts so many teenage girls. It is a ver un-healthy relationship, and the books promote getting invovled with the dangerous guy and making your entire life about the relationship. Live life first, and let your relationships (freindship and romance) enchance your life, not define it.

Maggie DeVries said...

My first reaction is to disagree. Like completely disagree. I love romances! I don't understand how you don't. But I do see your point. I see what you mean by the unrealistic relationships and such. I understand that. But I still love them.